"People usually change in small, incremental ways over time. You don't see it overnight, even after a trauma, not usually. People fall apart of fall in love or grow up or die slowly, most of the time. Children's brains take years to develop and diseases usually do, too... Change comes in the way you serve food and water, administer medications, clean up messes, do errands, read the words of masters - prophets and poets - listen to music, listen to each other. It comes in the way you say I love you over and over again, as if you won't be able to say it in the morning, and the way you say I'm sorry as soon as possible after you have hurt the person you love." - The Elementals by Francesca Lia Block